Friday, June 26, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
何谓朋友?
“相信每个人都有朋友吧?以上便是我中学中最要好的朋友!我相信他们也是这样想的。神,赐给了我们朋友,因为我们需要。对,我们需要朋友,朋友让我们吐谈心中的愉快与不愉快,与我们一起成长,学习,鼓励,支持...”
朋友之间的是友情,而问题是,你的朋友是否出现在你的友情里呢?那绝对是存在的。在这世界上,某某些的歪理论,让许多人认为,朋友是拿来利用的,他们的眼里,没有利用价值的人就不是朋友。如果你因着这样的现象,也改变了你的看法和想法,那你和他们有什么两样呢?好,如果是这样,我们就必须的更谨慎的交朋友了。另一个说法就是,必须更谨慎的交友情了。朋友,你可以有很多,不过,那儿是否有友情,那就不知道了,谁知道?你自己了。
换个角度,朋友所谓的帮忙,是否利用呢?许多人都分不清楚,所以才会产生那么多的误会。如果一位朋友,平常没事不会找你的,突然登上你的三宝殿,需要你的帮忙,这是利用吗?严格来说,这是利用,如果你是一位负面想法较重的人的话。其实,这可算上是社交的一种,认识他,哪知哪天需要他的帮忙啊?而你帮我,我帮你,达成双赢的局面,不是很好吗?利用和帮忙,真得那么重要吗?要怎样分辨,课本是不会教,是看你怎样想了。而另一种朋友,就是只有帮他,当你需要他的帮忙时,他却不帮的,那你就要小心了,可能他是真的不能帮,而不是不要帮,那还好。如果他是能帮,却不帮,这时候你有两种选择,一,下次不帮他(就算能帮),二,大量的帮他(要看程度)。这两种选择只是例子,如果你觉得你的做法会更加明智的,也是可以的。(请确保那是明智的情况下)
所以,什么是有友情的朋友呢?他们会爱你(提醒大家,这是朋友的爱,请把它想得健康和简单),可是这样的朋友会有吗?我相信是不可能的,这世上哪会有朋友可以满足你呢?两个人相处,总要相让,自己都顾不好了,怎么能顾好你呢?这样,如果你因为他们的不足,而断定他们不是你的朋友,你是否失去了这位好友呢?这其实也代表了,朋友必须一起成长,才能互相的鼓励,学习,而你自己,就必须学习独立,这世上没有永远的敌人,也没有永远的朋友的,你总要多和别人接触,了解一下别人的经历,也须多交朋友。当朋友多时,难不免会约出来相聚吧?而这时,正是一个很好的交流时候,互相分享,学习。然而,这样的分享,要达到好效果,自然出来相聚的人最好是少了,说穿了,多人的聚会多数都是瞎扯,因为第一个人说的事情,第十个人未必适合吧?自然话题就必须选择了,那还有什么意思呢?例子,和十个人出门,问候完就可以拍拍屁股走人了?就算真的有时间,你可以问得了多少个?效果会好吗?而和三个人出门的你,问候他们,是个人都可以有都一点的时间来说说他们的经历和想法。少一点人,也比较好集中,好说话。所以,我们是无须为朋友没约你而感伤心,只是还没轮到你。
而我们身为朋友的,很应该在不同的场合,有不同的身份吧?例子,我和我的朋友,他刚从国民服务回来,我作为朋友的,驾车载他到槟城,和一群不认识的人,过了整天,甚至他们的事情还得我来策划,带领,那天的我很成功地扮演了我的角色,做朋友的,还有什么好计较呢?我的朋友甚至告诉我们四年的交情还不及他们三个月来的友情,请试想想我的感受,不过又怎样呢?我付出,是为了回报吗?当然,每个人都不想被说帮忙是为了回报,所以都不觉得是,可是往往人会在无意间犯下这样的错误。最重要是错而能改,男人大丈夫,没什么大不了的,大不了东山再起,然而最怕的是不肯承认错误,而不悔改,那么永远都是错的了。所以有回报,我们应该高兴,没回报,也没什么的,反正没期待。=) 当然,要时常检讨自己,或许自己已经不知不觉地犯错了。
然而,别总是看出别人的不是,而忘了自己,请诚实的面对自己,自己是否是一位好朋友?肯为朋友付出吗?想回报吗?肯忍耐吗?肯的意思是包含心甘情愿的。自己是否有和大家一起进步呢?慢不是问题,最大的问题是不肯进步。然而如果你本身不愿意进步,你又好意思要大家被你一起停顿吗?
所以结论,你是否一位好朋友?当你是了,他是你的朋友吗?当他是了,那还有利用与帮忙之分吗?那儿就只会有爱,你对朋友的爱,包括付出,忍耐,恩慈,不嫉妒,凡是相信,凡是包容,和等等...总是有多角度来看待事情,你就会看到不一样的东西了,站在朋友的立场想想,想法自然会更理智和成熟。想成为一位好朋友,多么的不简单啊,不然的话,古人怎会一直晃着头,道说:人生得一好友,死而无憾啊。这句不是说可以死啊,这只是诗人夸张表达的方式,是说好友难得啊,自然的,好友更难做,加油吧,大家。=)
p/s:在人的关系中,事先了解进入关系的那个人是很重要的,不只是了解你的伴侣,你必须先了解自己。如果你连自己都不喜欢与自己相处,那你如何期待别人呢?我要请你去思考这个问题。你是否有像希望别人对待你那样对待自己?如果你对待自己,并没有像希望人家对待你那样,那你永远也无法改变事情的状况。你的行动是强而有力的思想,因此,如果你没有用爱和尊重来对待自己,别人也难以爱和尊重你。因为你不能代替人思考和感觉,你的职责就是自己。其实打开心灵,让神爱你,让你自己也可以爱你自己,这难道不是更好吗?
p/s:珍惜一起欢乐的时光,不让遗憾与悲伤成为你生命中的不速之客。
Wendy 21th B'day~
So...it's a fool idea...1,2,3 and 4. kaka~ Wishing Wendy Ang a Happy Birthday~They are all born in Dragon year~ so 5 dragons there...wao~~
Hour in school
Just went to Tunku Abdul Rahman,which was my school for six years,students at there are still acting childish,and some is even more than childish,can be said that is foolish...Looking at them,they are shadow of us,but somehow,they are even worse.BGR between them is not new,but a game for them.(They might not think so because they are one of them,for face,they reject our opinion.) Feeling sad...
Happy,to see ma old's friends,Hui Lin,Mei Ling,Man Yan,Yee Heng,Jia Wei,Lee Yee,Ying Ying and Ling Yan. After buying some stuffs,decided to have a walk through ma school,it has become more beautiful and colourful than before...Memories flows through my mind,every part,every corner of the school...Feeling sad again,being childish and silly for so many years. Well,on the way back,thinking...there is some goods being an innocence boy too,what we gotta do is only for happy,no responsibility,no worry,dont have to care too much,everythings undergo slowly,everythings follow our mood...No,that's not a lifestyle i would like my life going on. Just breath and eyes look for the infinity future,come on,there is still a long long way to go...I don't bother with the blesses of God. =)
p/s:I can do anything through christ who strengthen me. Thanks God.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Strange...
How fast the time pass... Argh,24 hours aren't enough.Wishing to have more than 24 hours perday,'impossible' word is given.Haiz...not in mood of writing blog,stop here,Cya my friends.
p/s:My mind is so blank now...Don't know what to do... ><"
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Lame night~
After going back to BM,everythings back to normal again,school,homeworks,friends,idiot,dawgs,foods...It was a busy week,fully filled with the homework and homeworks~
Anyhow,suddenly i feel sleepy,lols,i gotta sleep~for my busy Sunday~ Night everyone,sorry for breaking the silence of night~ >"<
p/s:Friends might be friend if there is no friendship between them. =) (Don't misunderstand what i have mentioned,i have mentioned nothing,and it was just a idea to write an essay or a poem to wreak my own feeling~relax la~ ^^)
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Time to go...
Busy Friday~
Pantai Kerachut! The sea is clean,it's quite a famous camping site for young.Try it next time. =P
Well,we went to Pantai Kerachut on friday.It's not that hard to climb over as i have thought.We took almost 2 hours to reach the beach.I skipped the journey. =P Then,we took a rest at there and everyone was enjoying the food(which i woke up at 7.30 and cook them),i hope them really enjoy it.=) At about 4pm,the boat came and ended our climbing.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Ending Holidays~
Monday, June 8, 2009
Monday in the hospital
Beach day~
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
WALAO EH!
"What a wonderful morning i had,"i was thinking while i was having a morning bath.I really enjoyed about it."Holidays!"=) Just as usual,i went to pasar and bought some delicious breakfast.Along the way,i hoped to meet some friend or may be who had played with me before,but at last,none...Well,just put my food in the busket and decided to go back.As u guys know,pasar is quite a hot place,so i decided not to wear the stupid helmet. Will i being caught? No no...it is impossible,because no one will wake up that early for catching the drivers like me in the pasar right? Ya,i m right,no one will catch people in the pasar,somehow,they are outside the pasar! Damn! Walao Eh! Who are they? The three man with black uniform stood in front of me,and beckon to me! Walao,so suai...
Nothing can do but have to let him check my lessen and IC,well,i did bring them out,somehow,i m scare for the saman which he kept asking to me:"Mau Saman tak?"Of course,i kept shaking my head to the police and suddenly i remembered my friends who had been 'saman' before,i quicky pleased them:"Abang,bagi chance,1 kali,first kali kena saja...plz...I m still a school boy..."
Wahaha!The police allowed me to go! Lolz,nothing had happened to a 18 years old boy who drived without his helmet at time 8.30 a.m. in Nibong Tebal on 04-June-2009! Thanks God! ^^~
p/s:Come on,my friends,don't be too sad that i didn't kena any saman,hehe~